"Forgiveness is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. The Oxford English Dictionary defines forgiveness as 'to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offense or debt'."
When we accept Christ as our Saviour he comes to our lives and forgives us our sins, the Bible says he throws away our past and never brings it back to our lives! But guess what? We love to live hanging on to our past and making it difficult to forgive!
Well, yes I know it is not an easy process as a matter of fact lots of sights define the process in 3-alot of stages, so sure enough not easy process. But of all the definitions available and all the therapy you can go through and I have gone to a lot, it is a decision you have to have to make, no one can do it for you it is up to you! Or you forgive or you live a life full of anger and resentment and with that comes along yes those horrible wrinkles and different aches that come with all that accumulation.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. You do not need to keep on having a relationship with that other person. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with
life and your life sure is worth living!....Mine truly is!
In all this process of forgiveness we often forget about a person that needs real healing! We need to forgive ourselves!! When I have been going through different healing process I had to come to terms that I needed to forgive me!! When the Lord looks at you he doesn't see your past, your faults, He sees a beautiful women cleansed with his precious blood and worth more than all the precious stones (Psalms 31.10). He sees potential! And guess what that is what we do not see in our lives, our potential! It produces great feelings of guilt making us miserable and constantly hanging on to that past that really does more hurt to our lives then to the other person! So from this moment on do as I did take the decision to forgive yourself! See your self as Jesus sees you! Understand yourself! Love yourself! Apply the process of forgiveness to yourself and you will see how you can move forward and become that women you are intended to be! Strong! Brave! Beautiful!
Letting go is proved to lead you to:
- Healthier relationships
- Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
- Less stress and hostility
- Lower blood pressure
- Fewer symptoms of depression, anxiety and chronic pain
- Lower risk of substance abuse
Remember, this is a process and it is your decision all the way but you have a Saviour who is by your side just waiting for you to take the first step! God is waiting for you!
"Look at me. I stand at the door. I knock. If you hear me call and open the door, I'll come right in and sit down to supper with you. Conquerors will sit alongside me at the head table, just as I, having conquered, took the place of honor at the side of my Father. That's my gift to the conquerors! Revelation 3.20,21"
Always remember God has great plans for you and me! Plans for your good, plans for you to conquer!
Blessings!
